Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria & Harbor
Finally, an app for the emotional side of ADHD.
Designed by a therapist and ADHDer, for those who know well the pain of rejection sensitivity.
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Rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) is one of the most painful parts of ADHD for many people, and one of the least well-supported. The advice tends to be some version of "just care less what people think." If that worked, we'd all be doing it.
In my therapy practice, I take a different approach, and Harbor is built on the same framework.
What you need in the middle of an acute RSD spiral is completely different from what you need at 3am when your brain won't stop replaying a difficult conversation. And the deeper growth work, the insights that actually change your long-term relationship with rejection, happens best when you're neither of those things.
Harbor lets you choose where you are:
SOS for when you're in it. Nervous system regulation tools for acute distress. Reflect for when your mind is racing and you need to make sense of the situation. Grow for when you're ready to go deeper and actually shift your relationship with RSD.
One part nervous system regulation coach. One part guided journal. One part RSD workbook.
How Harbor came to be (a very ADHD story)
I started Harbor because I wanted to make a TikTok about rejection sensitivity. As I thought all about what tools and approaches I actually see work every day for my therapy clients, my always bouncy brain said "Ooh! Make a worksheet to illustrate this better". Tik Tok goals immediately abandoned, I started brainstorming the worksheet only to learn there was way too much I wanted to cram onto one page (and that I still don't understand Canva). I then had the thought, "actually this would be so much more useful as an app. I guess I'm making an app" even though I knew nothing at the time about doing so. It is no coincidence that one of my favorite parts of ADHD is our audacity. If we really want to do something, we are going to figure it out. After nearly a year of brainstorming, hard work, and bringing the right tools and experts on board, I am so excited to soon be able to put this tool in your hands.